On the name of the blog, “Stroke Survivor”…I chose the name quite deliberately because I am, well, a survivor., a fighter. Trust me, every day since the stroke I have to fight something – one way of measuring progress is to notice how the battles change over time. I’m not a “victim”, which I feel conveys the wrong thing, something altogether more passive – I think we choose to be victims of something when we allow it to change us.
I realise that this is just semantics, and feel that people mostly use this description out of ignorance – I can’t really blame people because I myself knew nothing about stroke until it happened to me, plus there must be a zillion other things I’m still ignorant about – but now that I do know, the least I can try to do is to get it right.
On my own name, it’s not a big thing, but I’d prefer to be anonymous. I took counsel from other bloggers on this, and the general feeling was that writing a blog where one’s identity is known is tantamount to putting on a pair of handcuffs – when your known by people, certain subjects are off-limits. To an sxtent my real-life friends and family know about the blog and might read it, so there is always (and will always be) an element of self-censorship here. But I need to strike a balance between this, and recounting life’s events.
For the same reason, I guard my exact location, although probably less jealously than my identity. My nearest city is Salisbury, U.K., which will get you close enough to me and will provide some where in the world context.
Having said that, I do other things on the internet, so an industrious person could probably soon find out my identity. If you do, please keep it to yourself. Or do me a favour by sending an email to this blog – it’ll get to me eventually – telling me how you found out, just so I can perhaps close the loophole. But I know there are certain trapdoors which will lead from me to the blog (but not the other way), so some of these are deliberate.I do also have a wife and a grown-up child, neither of whom volunteered to be a part of this blog, and so I protect their identities more than I protect my own. My intention, when I talk about them, is simply to refer to my “wife” or “daughter”. In fact, I periodically search for their names, to make sure they don’t appear. Again, if I’ve messed up, I’d be grateful if you could let me know so I can fix it.